Things You Need to Know Before You Get Married…or Divorced
“I wish I had known this before I got married.” I hear this a lot as a counselor. Sometimes it’s said in jest, and sometimes it’s said in…
September 12, 2018 · 5 min read
The Steps to a Great Marriage
The steps to a great marriage. You see a lot of titles like this if you spend any time on social media. Everyone is giving you three steps to this…
August 31, 2018 · 4 min read
How To Stay Together When Others Are Coming Apart
As a Teaching and Counseling Pastor, I come across marriages of all shapes, sizes, ages, and stages. There are those in the very beginning of their…
August 5, 2018 · 4 min read
How the Heart of a Marriage Survives a Near Fatal Heart Surgery
In the following guest post by Debbie Latour, you will hear how a married couple faced a dangerous heart surgery and came out stronger in love, life…
July 26, 2018 · 7 min read
How To Be A Better Person
If you want to know how to be a better spouse and have a better marriage, it starts with learning how to be a better person. Right now, my spouse is…
June 21, 2018 · 6 min read
I Learned 3 Simple Marriage Rules From a Preschooler
Last weekend, I learned three simple marriage rules from a preschooler when I picked up my four-year-old granddaughter for a much needed date. It was…
June 14, 2018 · 3 min read
3 Questions for an Ailing Marriage
I’ve discovered three questions you can use to diagnose an ailing marriage. I would like to tell you I discovered these questions while completing my…
May 15, 2018 · 4 min read
Trick Questions and Expectations in Marriage
Trick questions can be…well…tricky. For instance, how would you answer this question: “Have you stopped beating your spouse?” Answering this question…
April 23, 2018 · 4 min read
Getting Over the Wall of Resentment
Resentment can be like a wall that separates spouses, and the longer the wall stays up, the harder it is to get over it. Walls of resentment can…
March 23, 2018 · 4 min read
Marital Drift and How to Stop It.
Have you ever had the experience of looking at your spouse in thinking, “We use to be so close. How did we drift apart? What happened?” If you have…
March 15, 2018 · 5 min read
Do You Really Want a Better Marriage?
Do you really want a better marriage? Sounds like a stupid question, doesn’t it? Who wouldn’t want a better marriage? No one wants their marriage to…
March 8, 2018 · 4 min read
What If We Built Our Marriage On Pooh?
Winnie the Pooh is a classic in children’s literature. As young children, we listened to adults read the great adventures of Pooh and his friends. As…
February 15, 2018 · 4 min read
Mishaps in Messaging
My wife is not much for talking on the phone. She prefers to text, so she often texts rather than calls. The problem is, if she’s texting someone…
January 26, 2018 · 4 min read
How to Embrace Change
People who know me know I am not a handyman. I’m someone who can turn a simple fifteen minute fix-it job into an all day nightmare. I am the guy from…
January 14, 2018 · 5 min read
Have You Lost the Magic?
Couples come into my counseling office for many reasons. Some are having on-going conflicts they can’t resolve. Others are having trouble with their…
January 7, 2018 · 4 min read
Fearing Forward – The New Year
Some face a new year with much anticipation. Others face a new year with some fear and dread. As you look back over the last twelve months, maybe…
December 31, 2017 · 3 min read
The Silent Killers of Marriage
“Acting for the first time in 14 years, the American Heart Association and the American College of Cardiology redefined high blood pressure as a…
December 14, 2017 · 5 min read
Are You A Good Lover?
How am I suppose to find the answer to the question, “Are you a good lover?” If I ask myself that question, my pride and ego would give a resounding…
November 30, 2017 · 4 min read
Gratitude is a Great Attitude for Marriage
On Thanksgiving Day, it’s good to look at the role gratitude plays in marriage. Many marriages are unhappy, not because of big things like abuse or…
November 23, 2017 · 5 min read
How to Fight the Good Fight
Some of my favorite movies (much to my wife’s dismay) are “The Matrix” trilogy of movies. They never get old to me. I can watch them over and over…
October 26, 2017 · 4 min read
Looking for Buried Treasure
One day, I was out walking and noticed a man with a metal detector methodically covering a patch of ground. Slowly and diligently, he combed first…
October 18, 2017 · 4 min read
Is Your Spouse Hurtful?
How would you complete the following sentence: “I never thought my spouse would be so ____________.” ? There are probably as many different answers…
September 21, 2017 · 6 min read
This is Not What I Expected
Expectations. We all have expectations before we get married. We have expectations about what marriage will be like. We have expectations about how…
September 7, 2017 · 5 min read
What A Two-Year Old Taught Me About Listening
I’ve been spending a lot of time with my two-year old granddaughter, and boy does this little girl loves to talk! She starts when she wakes up and…
August 31, 2017 · 5 min read