Bret Legg
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I want to be like Moses. It’s not that I want to walk around with a big stick and a glowing face, calling down plagues and parting large bodies of water. It’s not even that I want to be some big-time leader over a large group of people. In…
I hate to admit it, but I’ve become a complainer…at least more than I used to be. I’m not sure what happened. I used to be more up-beat, more positive, and more hopeful. It seems as the demands and stresses of life increased, so did my my…
“I wish I had known this before I got married.” I hear this a lot as a counselor. Sometimes it’s said in jest, and sometimes it’s said in frustration. Before we get married, we think we know what it takes to have a good marriage. It’s only…
I’ve mentioned before that I’m not a detailed person. I’m a big picture person. I have great ideas, but when I look at all the details of making those great ideas happen, I lose my momentum…and my mind. But after reading Numbers chapter…
When I was a child, “because I said so” never felt like a good reason to comply. That’s because there’s something in us that resists being told what to do. We would rather give the orders, than take them. But that’s not the message of…
The steps to a great marriage. You see a lot of titles like this if you spend any time on social media. Everyone is giving you three steps to this and four steps to that. In fact, the experts tell social media writers that these are the…
Maybe you’ve heard someone use the term “Indian Giver.” Though not politically correct, the title refers to someone who gives something away only to take it back. I suppose the opposite of an “Indian Giver” would be an “Indian Getter.”…
Numbers chapter 6 talks about a Nazarite vow. This is a vow in which a person separates themselves to God by separating themselves from certain things like: drinking wine or strong drink, having their hair cut, and being near a dead…
As a Teaching and Counseling Pastor, I come across marriages of all shapes, sizes, ages, and stages. There are those in the very beginning of their marriage. They have no kids, all the time in the world, and life is just one long extended…
In the following guest post by Debbie Latour, you will hear how a married couple faced a dangerous heart surgery and came out stronger in love, life, and faith. When you’re divorced, middle aged, and are given the gift of…
If you were trying to build a team (a sports team, a business team, a class, or even a family,) what would you most want to emphasize and engrain in them? For some it would be loyalty. For others it would be unity. Some would focus on…
Detail people. We all know them. They are the people who think in terms of who, what, when, and how. They need to dot every I and cross every T. They are all about the nuts and bolts, and the plans and procedures. These are the people who…
If you want to know how to be a better spouse and have a better marriage, it starts with learning how to be a better person. Right now, my spouse is probably laughing her head off at the idea that I can tell you how to be a better person.…
Ever had a question you wanted to ask, but didn’t think it would be appropriate? “When is your baby due?” “Are you ill, because you don’t look so good?” These questions could be politically incorrect in certain circumstances and could…
The American Dream…peace, prosperity, protection, and prominence. These are the things we long and strive for. We’re told that, because we live in America, these things are ours for the taking, if we are willing to work hard enough to make…
Last weekend, I learned three simple marriage rules from a preschooler when I picked up my four-year-old granddaughter for a much needed date. It was a standard date for us: getting some much-needed essentials from the toy store, catching…
In my last post (How Partnering Can Improve Parenting,) we looked at how improving your marriage could improve your parenting. It stressed the importance of making sure your partnering takes precedence over your parenting. (If you’ve not…
We live in a society that moves at a frantic pace. We seek to get as much as we can, as quickly as we can. We use every minute of every day, feeling like we can’t afford to slow down and take a break. We fear falling behind others…or maybe…
There’s an old saying… “Familiarity breeds contempt.” This can be true in our relationship with God, but the contempt looks more like casualness. Our familiarity with God can lead us to casually take Him for granted…which is a subtle form…
We don’t often think of how parenting can improve partnering. Usually, we think of just the opposite…how parenting makes partnering harder. We instantly think of all the demands parenting makes on our time, money, energy, and resources,…
Holiness. It sounds so unattainable…kind of like perfection. Perhaps I would prefer to think of holiness as unattainable perfection. That way, I can say, “no one’s perfect,” and I can skim over the word when I read it in the Bible. But…
I’ve discovered three questions you can use to diagnose an ailing marriage. I would like to tell you I discovered these questions while completing my graduate degree in Marriage and Family Counseling, but the truth is, I discovered these…
When the children of Israel moved into the Land of Canaan, they had left behind an old way of life in Egypt, and had been brought to another godless land. This was intentional on God’s part, because He had plans to use them in Canaan. God…
It can be challenging to consistently pull applicable truths from the chapters of Leviticus. I’m sure this is more of a reflection on me than on Leviticus, because as Jesus said, “seek and you will find.” (Matt. 7:7) So, I’ve been seeking…