The Road Out of Oz
Quote – Control
“Show me a controlling person and I’ll show you a person who is secretly afraid.” – Donald Miller.
February 21, 20161 min read
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The Road Out of Oz
Searching for a Way to Explain It.
I’ve been helping women* recover from sexual abuse since 1992, and over the years I’ve noticed that women trying to decide whether to begin the process of recovery have some common questions… How long will this take? What do I need to do?…
February 21, 20163 min read
Marriage
What Makes a Good Marriage Story – Part 4: The Obstacles
(The posts in this series have been adapted from the “Relentless Love” marriage seminar, created and taught by David McKinley and Bret Legg at Prestonwood Baptist Church in Dallas, TX.) In this series, we’re looking at your marriage as if…
February 18, 20165 min read
Marriage
What Makes a Good Marriage Story – Part 3: The Characters
(The posts in this series have been adapted from the “Relentless Love” marriage seminar, created and taught by David McKinley and Bret Legg at Prestonwood Baptist Church in Dallas, TX.) In this series, we are looking at your marriage as a…
February 11, 20165 min read
Marriage
What Makes a Good Marriage Story – Part 2: The Author
(The posts in this series have been adapted from the “Relentless Love” marriage seminar, created and taught by David McKinley and Bret Legg at Prestonwood Baptist Church in Dallas, TX.) What story title would best describes the story of…
February 8, 20165 min read
Marriage
What Makes a Good Marriage Story – Part 1
(The posts in this series have been adapted from the “Relentless Love” marriage seminar, created and taught by David McKinley and Bret Legg at Prestonwood Baptist Church in Dallas, TX.) Whether it’s War and Peace or Green Eggs and Ham,…
January 29, 20164 min read
Marriage
Doing the Right Thing is Never the Wrong Thing
There are times when doing the right thing seems to make matters worse. You try to defend your friend on the playground and you’re the one who gets beat up. An employer asks for an honest opinion then makes your life miserable because they…
January 18, 20164 min read
Marriage
How To Deal With Interrup…
Everyone gets interrupted. It happens every day. You start to do something and you get a call from that telemarketer you’re so fond of. You sit down at your computer to begin working and your email begins to ding as if you’ve just hit the…
January 15, 20164 min read
Marriage
When You Can’t Find the Merry in Christmas
We just put our Christmas decorations up…five days before Christmas! No, we’re not Scrooges and no, this is not typical for us. We were going to have the decorations up three weeks before Christmas, but that week turned out to be more…
December 22, 20154 min read
Marriage
How Do You Decorate Your Marriage?
I have to admit, I have never decorated the outside of our house or our the yard for Christmas. I’m not against it, and I don’t have anything against those that do. It’s just seems like a lot of work for something you’re going to have to…
December 15, 20155 min read
Marriage
Marriage is for Losers
“Marriage is for Losers!” This sounds like something some guy in his late teens or early twenties might loudly proclaim at a party with lots of pretty girls and alcohol. It also sounds like something someone might mumble when walking out…
December 2, 20155 min read
Marriage
Did I Marry the Right One?
Did I marry “the right one?” There can be times in marriage when that question races across your mind like a streaker running across a football field. It can happen when you’re having that same old fight for the umpteenth time. It can…
November 27, 20155 min read
Marriage
Thank You
“Thank you.” Two simple words that cost us nothing in time or energy, yet they can change the outlook and life of those who hear them. We all love to hear these words. We can all remember life-changing moments when someone sent us a note…
November 26, 20152 min read
Marriage
4 Things You Can Do When Things Don’t Go As You Planned
“I think we better go to the ER.” I could barely hear the words over the voices in my head saying, “This can’t be happening! Not to me! I’m too young! This can’t be a heart attack!” On the way to the ER, I convinced myself that since I…
November 16, 20156 min read
Marriage
Monogam-ish? Really?
There is an idea related to marriage that is slowly gaining traction in our culture. It is the idea that you can be monogamous maritally, without being exclusive sexually. The term for this is “monogam-ish.” When I first encountered this…
October 30, 20155 min read
Marriage
Funny How Things Can Take You Back
It’s funny how things can take you back. It could be a song, or a smell. It could be a phrase, or a scene from a movie. Whatever it is, you know it when it happens, because you’re suddenly transported back to a better time (hopefully.)…
October 28, 20154 min read
Marriage
The Gift of Attention
Attention is like air to our emotional lungs. Without attention, babies fail to thrive. Without attention, children struggle emotionally and scholastically. Without attention, isolated people become loners and sometimes threats to society.…
October 13, 20156 min read
Marriage
I Blamed it on the CPAP
Small acts of love and kindness can have a big impact on marriage, but as time goes on, these small acts tend to get lost in the clutter of marriage. They begin to fade like an old pair of jeans. It happened to me, and my wife lovingly…
October 1, 20154 min read
Marriage
How to Have a Good Day
Have you ever noticed that people often tell you, “Have a good day!” but they don’t tell you how to have a good day? Doesn’t that seem a little odd? It’s like telling someone, “Have a million dollars” and then walking away without telling…
September 29, 20154 min read
Marriage
Marriage at McDonalds
I have a graduate degree in Marriage and Family Counseling. I work with married couples weekly, and I regularly write about how to improve marriage. Still, it was an elderly couple at McDonald that taught me my most recent lessons on…
September 22, 20156 min read
Marriage
Are You Listening?
“Are you listening to me?” “You never listen to me.” “I’ve tried to tell you, but you just don’t listen.” “If you would listen you would know.” Have you ever heard your spouse say something like this? If so, join the ranks of the many. Not…
September 17, 20155 min read
Marriage
Is Your Marriage Meaningful or Mundane?
Is your marriage meaningful or mundane? It’s easy to skip over that question. An honest answer to that question might not be what we want to hear. But if we’re brave enough to ponder it, the question will lead us to ask another question.…
September 15, 20154 min read
Marriage
Comfortably Uncomfortable
We all want to be comfortable. We want comfortable chairs, comfortable shoes, comfortable beds, comfortable clothes, comfortable retirements…comfortable everything. We especially want comfortable marriages. We want marriages that are calm,…
September 10, 20154 min read
Marriage
A Labor Day Lesson on Disappointment
It’s Labor Day and I’m sick. Not loosing your last meal in the commode sick. More like head full of concrete can’t breathe sick. I’ve tried every remedy I could find in our cabinet of over-the-counter promises, but no magic bullet. I woke…
September 7, 20154 min read