Quote – Control
“Show me a controlling person and I’ll show you a person who is secretly afraid.” – Donald Miller.
February 21, 2016 · 1 min read
Searching for a Way to Explain It.
I’ve been helping women* recover from sexual abuse since 1992, and over the years I’ve noticed that women trying to decide whether to begin the…
February 21, 2016 · 3 min read
What Makes a Good Marriage Story – Part 4: The Obstacles
(The posts in this series have been adapted from the “Relentless Love” marriage seminar, created and taught by David McKinley and Bret Legg at…
February 18, 2016 · 5 min read
What Makes a Good Marriage Story – Part 3: The Characters
(The posts in this series have been adapted from the “Relentless Love” marriage seminar, created and taught by David McKinley and Bret Legg at…
February 11, 2016 · 5 min read
What Makes a Good Marriage Story – Part 2: The Author
(The posts in this series have been adapted from the “Relentless Love” marriage seminar, created and taught by David McKinley and Bret Legg at…
February 8, 2016 · 5 min read
What Makes a Good Marriage Story – Part 1
(The posts in this series have been adapted from the “Relentless Love” marriage seminar, created and taught by David McKinley and Bret Legg at…
January 29, 2016 · 4 min read
Doing the Right Thing is Never the Wrong Thing
There are times when doing the right thing seems to make matters worse. You try to defend your friend on the playground and you’re the one who gets…
January 18, 2016 · 4 min read
How To Deal With Interrup…
Everyone gets interrupted. It happens every day. You start to do something and you get a call from that telemarketer you’re so fond of. You sit down…
January 15, 2016 · 4 min read
When You Can’t Find the Merry in Christmas
We just put our Christmas decorations up…five days before Christmas! No, we’re not Scrooges and no, this is not typical for us. We were going to have…
December 22, 2015 · 4 min read
How Do You Decorate Your Marriage?
I have to admit, I have never decorated the outside of our house or our the yard for Christmas. I’m not against it, and I don’t have anything against…
December 15, 2015 · 5 min read
Marriage is for Losers
“Marriage is for Losers!” This sounds like something some guy in his late teens or early twenties might loudly proclaim at a party with lots of…
December 2, 2015 · 5 min read
Did I Marry the Right One?
Did I marry “the right one?” There can be times in marriage when that question races across your mind like a streaker running across a football…
November 27, 2015 · 5 min read
Thank You
“Thank you.” Two simple words that cost us nothing in time or energy, yet they can change the outlook and life of those who hear them. We all love to…
November 26, 2015 · 2 min read
4 Things You Can Do When Things Don’t Go As You Planned
“I think we better go to the ER.” I could barely hear the words over the voices in my head saying, “This can’t be happening! Not to me! I’m too…
November 16, 2015 · 6 min read
Monogam-ish? Really?
There is an idea related to marriage that is slowly gaining traction in our culture. It is the idea that you can be monogamous maritally, without…
October 31, 2015 · 5 min read
Funny How Things Can Take You Back
It’s funny how things can take you back. It could be a song, or a smell. It could be a phrase, or a scene from a movie. Whatever it is, you know it…
October 28, 2015 · 4 min read
The Gift of Attention
Attention is like air to our emotional lungs. Without attention, babies fail to thrive. Without attention, children struggle emotionally and…
October 13, 2015 · 6 min read
I Blamed it on the CPAP
Small acts of love and kindness can have a big impact on marriage, but as time goes on, these small acts tend to get lost in the clutter of marriage…
October 2, 2015 · 4 min read
How to Have a Good Day
Have you ever noticed that people often tell you, “Have a good day!” but they don’t tell you how to have a good day? Doesn’t that seem a little odd?…
September 29, 2015 · 4 min read
Marriage at McDonalds
I have a graduate degree in Marriage and Family Counseling. I work with married couples weekly, and I regularly write about how to improve marriage…
September 22, 2015 · 6 min read
Are You Listening?
“Are you listening to me?” “You never listen to me.” “I’ve tried to tell you, but you just don’t listen.” “If you would listen you would know.” Have…
September 17, 2015 · 5 min read
Is Your Marriage Meaningful or Mundane?
Is your marriage meaningful or mundane? It’s easy to skip over that question. An honest answer to that question might not be what we want to hear…
September 15, 2015 · 4 min read
Comfortably Uncomfortable
We all want to be comfortable. We want comfortable chairs, comfortable shoes, comfortable beds, comfortable clothes, comfortable…
September 10, 2015 · 4 min read
A Labor Day Lesson on Disappointment
It’s Labor Day and I’m sick. Not loosing your last meal in the commode sick. More like head full of concrete can’t breathe sick. I’ve tried every…
September 7, 2015 · 4 min read