Bret Legg
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When I talk about 3 ways to make time, I am not talking about sexual encounters or getting to a destination quicker. I’m talking about dealing with the pressure of feeling like you need more time. We often talk about needing to make time…
Every baseball player wants to hit a home run. They want to know that feeling of seeing the ball go over the fence. The same is true in marriage. We all want a marriage that powerfully connects and soars over the fence. We all want a home…
There are people in this world who are just difficult people. Maybe they… Love to stir up gossip. Get others to do their work. Are argumentative or negative. Repeat the same careless mistakes. Make the same old excuses. Demand their own…
My spouse and I differ in a lot of ways, but there’s one very big difference between us. It’s not related to money, or sex, or kids, or in-laws. It’s much more serious. It’s about super hero movies vs Hallmark movies. This difference has…
A “foxhole prayer” is a prayer you pray when things are difficult and pressing. A test you’ve not studied for. The fear of an unwanted pregnancy. A sudden job loss. A terminal diagnosis. Such things can cause even non-religious people to…
Ever notice the difference between the dating couples from the married couples in a restaurant? The dating couples are animated. They’re looking at each other, leaning into the conversation, laughing, asking questions, and telling stories.
“Why am I here?” I find myself asking this question a lot. Sometimes, it’s just because I’ve walked into a room and have forgotten what I was there for. But the older I get, the more I’m asking that question on a deeper level. It’s a…
Remember when your marriage was young? Remember the fun, the anticipation, the magic? Does your marriage still feel magical or has it become more mechanical? If your marriage seems more mechanical than magical, there are three keys to…
“What happened to the person I married?” “Where did that person go?” “I want that person back.” This is not the person I thought I was marrying.” “This isn’t the spouse I wanted!” Most people who have been married for any length of time…
We never really outgrow the desire to be liked by others. We can be a grown adult with children and grandchildren, and still be concerned about whether people like us. We don’t approach people and ask, “Do you like me?” That’s way too…
In the last post, we talked about what it means to have a “normal marriage.” Here’s a quick recap: Everyone’s marriage is “normal”…for them. There are parts of “normal” that work and should be kept. There are parts of “normal” that don’t…
When I started this blog, I didn’t really explain what I meant by the term “normal marriage.” I just jumped right into talking about marriage and never really addressed it. In this post, let me correct that oversight and talk about what it…
Who doesn’t want to have power and influence? That’s why people rise through the ranks, store up wealth, connect with the right people, and change things around them. It’s a desire to attain some sort of power and influence. That’s not…
Verbs are action words that gives life to a sentence. Think of the sentence, “Dick and Jane played.” If you take away the verb, all you have is “Dick and Jane.” Without the verb, it’s boring and goes no where. The same is true of marriage.…
How can someone be here one minute and gone the next? How can life be going so well and then come undone? How can I feel fine one day and get this diagnosis the next? How can I buy a home and then find out later they’re doing away with my…
Why can’t I get what I want? Maybe you’ve asked that question in marriage. Maybe it was when your spouse was not helping around the house. Maybe it was when you wanted to relax and your spouse wanted you to run an errand. Maybe it was when…
Wisdom. Who doesn’t want to be wise? Everyone wants wisdom, especially when there’s an important decision to be made. So why is it wisdom sometimes eludes us? We can all look back at decisions we made or paths we took and say, “That wasn’t…
Next time you attend a funeral, listen to the conversations about the deceased. I’m not talking about the carefully crafted, flowery words of the eulogy. I’m talking about the side conversations in the hall ways and outside the building.…
When you hear the phrase “life at full throttle,” what comes to mind? Extreme sports? Risky investments? Exotic travel? Extreme career changes? Life at full throttle doesn’t have to be glitzy or glamorous. It doesn’t have to be reckless or…
Do you and your spouse sit together? I’m talking about sitting close together. Do you sit together on the sofa? Do you sit together when you’re out to eat? Do you sit together when you’re visiting friends? One of the laws of attraction has…
Which is more important, forgiveness or justice? It depends on who you are. If you’re the offended, justice is more important. If you’re the offender, forgiveness is more important. Whether you’re looking for forgiveness or justice, you…
Possessive pronouns are general words that replace nouns and denote ownership. (Feel like you’re back in school?) They are words like: yours, mine ours, etc. These words are very important to us. Toddlers grab toys and say, “Mine!”…
“What’s the most important thing in life? Ever thought about it? Most of us are looking for the answer to that question. We’re not navel-gazing, wide-eyed fanatics. We’re not climbing mountains to talk to some wise man sitting cross-legged…
“Cars. Dishwashers. Houses. Televisions. Phones. These eventually beg the question, “Should I fix the one I’ve got or get a new one?” It’s not always clear, and often we make more of an emotional decision than a rational decision. If we…