Bret Legg
Truth that makes a difference
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Every day, we hear of “random” acts of violence, people who have everything making “senseless” decisions that cost them everything, and people who “supposedly” represent a Holy God but do unholy things. You can’t help but wonder, “How…
Do you ever get tired of trying to figure out who’s right and who’s wrong? If you parent siblings, you frequently find yourself wondering, “Who’s telling the truth and who’s not?” If you listen to politicians, you often find one saying one…
Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The list refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage and is based on information gleaned from over 20 years of counseling records and marriage failures. Has there ever been a…
If you go to garage sales, you know the scene… A variety of clothes hung on a clothesline between two trees. A folding table with random and miscellaneous stuff. Boxes filled with unrelated items. In short…the organized disorganization of…
Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The List refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage and is based on information gleaned from over 20 years of counseling records. According to an article posted on…
THIS DOESN’T MAKE SENSE While in seminary, I served as a hospice chaplain to patients who were diagnosed with 6 months or less to live. There was a nice and personable patient who sticks in my memory. This man had a wonderful wife, kids,…
Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The list refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage, and is based on information gleaned from over 20 years of counseling records. When I have a couple in my office whose…
If you had superpowers, what would you do? Most of us would say something like, “help others.” But wouldn’t it be tempting to use your power to do a little grand-standing? And how would you know if you were really using your power to help…
Some time ago, I spent a few days thinning out over 20 years of counseling files. As I went through each individual file, it was like a trip down memory lane. With each file, I could see their faces and remember their issues. While doing…
When my children were little, they had more toys than they could play with on a regular basis. Consequently, as they played with their favorite toy of the week, other toys would sit forgotten at the bottom of the toy box. Then one day,…
MY MISTAKE When I served as a minister to single adults, I’m afraid I made a serious mistake. No, I didn’t have an illicit relationship with someone or misappropriate funds. And I didn’t teach some sort of religious heresy. What I did was…
Little things are important. If you don’t do the little things for your car…like changing the oil, rotating the tires, checking the fluid levels…it will lead to big problems. If spouses ignore little things like communication, time…
I’M NOT A GAMBLER I’m not much of a gambler. Never have been. It’s not that I have some moral stance against gambling. I’ve just never felt the need to unnecessarily risk money I already have on the slight possibility I might win more.…
When you were growing up and needed to get your parents to sign off on something, didn’t you know which parent was more likely to say “yes” to what you wanted? Isn’t that the parent you went to? As adults, we still tend to seek advice from…
THE ROMANTIC When people (particularly young people) are getting married, they post things on social media like… “I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you.” “You will always be my forever friend.” “I look forward to growing old…
Some people just don’t get it. Do you know the type? These people don’t listen, even though the message is clear and strong. They keep walking down the wrong paths, even though the warning signs are loud and clear. It’s as if they think…
No, this post is not about polygamy or sister wives. It’s just that sometimes it can feel like you’re married to two spouses at the same time; the one you fell in love with, and the one you didn’t. Let me explain by using a story from the…
Have you ever done something good for someone, only to have that person disregard you? When that happens, your response is often, “How could they do that, after all I’ve done for them?!” This is the theme and feel of 1 Kings chapter 20.…
I was talking to a friend who is somewhat particular about his yard, and he told me there are two parts of his yard that are his favorite spots. I thought to myself, “These must be particularly lush and manicured parts of his yard to be…
Everyone goes through difficult and draining times…even those seeking God. (John 16:33) Some will recover from those times, while others will not. In 1 Kings chapter 19, we see Elijah fearfully running. He wants to quit and die. Was he…
Maybe you’re in one of those rare marriages where sex is not a problem. Maybe you both agree on the when, where, and how of sex. If so, count yourself as fortunate. But most married couples wrestle with sex. (Pun intended!) WHY IS SEX SUCH…
There are stories that are timeless classics. They have action, intrigue, a good hero, a strong villain, a powerful conclusion, and a timeless message. 1 Kings chapter 18 has such a story. In this story, after years of moral and religious…
I was driving to work one morning in a bit of a funk. It had been a long and taxing week and I was just feeling a little…blah! I had my favorites playlist on shuffle when a song pulled me out of my fog. Actually, it was the following line…
“If you loved me, you wouldn’t…” We say this when someone who is supposed to care about us is not responding as we hoped or expected. The underlying message is, “If you loved me, you would keep me from hurt, struggle, and difficult times.”…