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14 essays

1Marriage

The List – Stop Spending Time Together

Some time ago, I spent a few days thinning out over 20 years of counseling files. As I went through each individual file, it was like a trip down…

June 17, 2021 · 5 min read
2Marriage

The List – Put Your Kids Ahead of Your Spouse

Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The list refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage, and is based on information…

June 23, 2021 · 7 min read
3Marriage

The List – Don’t Deal With Your Past Trauma

Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The List refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage and is based on information…

July 1, 2021 · 5 min read
4Marriage

The List – Let Your Personality Override Your Responsibility

Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The list refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage and is based on information…

July 8, 2021 · 6 min read
5Marriage

The List – Stop Showing Appreciation

Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The list refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage and is based on information…

July 21, 2021 · 6 min read
6Marriage

The List – Be Parental With Your Spouse

Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The list refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage and is based on information…

July 29, 2021 · 7 min read
7Marriage

The List – Communicate Poorly…or Not At All

Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The list refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage and is based on information…

August 5, 2021 · 5 min read
8Marriage

The List – Let Anger Have It’s Way

Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The list refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage, and is based on information…

August 12, 2021 · 7 min read
9Marriage

The List – Wait for Your Spouse to Go First

Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The list refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage, and is based on information…

August 19, 2021 · 7 min read
10Marriage

The List – Don’t Do Anything About Your Depression and Anxiety

Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The list refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage, and is based on information…

August 26, 2021 · 7 min read
11Marriage

The List – Insist on Doing Things As Your Family Did

My wife and I had only been married for six months, and it was Christmas eve. We had finished dinner, and I was preparing to watch some Christmas…

September 2, 2021 · 6 min read
12Marriage

The List – Don’t Accept Your Spouse

Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The list refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage and is based on information…

September 9, 2021 · 5 min read
13Marriage

The List – Don’t Accept Your Spouse

Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The list refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage, and is based on information…

September 16, 2021 · 5 min read
14Marriage

The List – Withhold Affection

Withholding affection is another item on the list of ways you can lose your marriage. If this seems obvious, it’s because so many spouses feel a…

September 23, 2021 · 6 min read