The List – Don’t Deal With Your Past Trauma
Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The List refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage and is based on information…
July 1, 2021 · 5 min read
The List – Put Your Kids Ahead of Your Spouse
Note: We are currently in a series called “The List.” The list refers to a list of ways you can lose your marriage, and is based on information…
June 23, 2021 · 7 min read
The List – Stop Spending Time Together
Some time ago, I spent a few days thinning out over 20 years of counseling files. As I went through each individual file, it was like a trip down…
June 17, 2021 · 5 min read
How to be Happy with a Less-Than-Perfect Marriage
MY MISTAKE When I served as a minister to single adults, I’m afraid I made a serious mistake. No, I didn’t have an illicit relationship with someone…
June 10, 2021 · 5 min read
Being Married is Like Playing Poker
I’M NOT A GAMBLER I’m not much of a gambler. Never have been. It’s not that I have some moral stance against gambling. I’ve just never felt the need…
June 3, 2021 · 6 min read
Some Things About Growing Old Together…
THE ROMANTIC When people (particularly young people) are getting married, they post things on social media like… “I can’t wait to spend the rest of…
May 27, 2021 · 3 min read
How to Love Two Spouses
No, this post is not about polygamy or sister wives. It’s just that sometimes it can feel like you’re married to two spouses at the same time; the…
May 20, 2021 · 4 min read
4 Simple Things That Will Improve Sex in Marriage
Maybe you’re in one of those rare marriages where sex is not a problem. Maybe you both agree on the when, where, and how of sex. If so, count…
May 6, 2021 · 9 min read
Where is Your Home…Really?
I was driving to work one morning in a bit of a funk. It had been a long and taxing week and I was just feeling a little…blah! I had my favorites…
April 29, 2021 · 2 min read
Not Another Marriage List!
We’ve all seen them. They’re in the magazines that line the grocery store check-out aisles. They’re scattered throughout our social media feeds. They…
April 22, 2021 · 5 min read
A Small Surprise Makes a Big Impact
In the spirit of full disclosure, let me say this is a post I need to take to heart as much as anyone. Just ask my spouse. A STORY Not long ago, a…
April 15, 2021 · 5 min read
#30 How to Spot an Immature Spouse
https://bretlegg.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/QC0030-How-to-Spot-an-Immature-Spouse.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWe’re all a little…
April 12, 2021 · 1 min read
How to Spot an Immature Spouse
This is my wedding photo. When I look at this photo, I can’t help but notice how young and immature I was. I was only 21 years old. I was a country…
April 8, 2021 · 5 min read
UPS Can Clear Up Your Communication
IT’S NOT A LACK OF COMMUNICATION You’ve heard it a million times. “Communication is the key to a good marriage.” This cliché statement has caused…
April 1, 2021 · 6 min read
The One Thing No Spouse Wants To Deal With
No one wants them. We try to avoid them. But if you’re married, you can’t avoid them. So we skirt them and try to spend as little time as possible…
March 25, 2021 · 6 min read
The Pandemic of Pornography
A Pandemic Problem. We have seen a lot of loss in recent days due to a worldwide pandemic, but we have been suffering from a virus that is much more…
March 18, 2021 · 5 min read
Watching the Titanic Sink…Over and Over Again
No matter how many times I see Jame Cameron’s movie “Titanic,” I am always uneasy each time I watch that ship slowly submerge, violently break apart…
March 11, 2021 · 5 min read
How to Lose a Fight
When it comes to marital fights, I know two things… FIRST – EVERY COUPLE FIGHTS. Some spouses fight like a hurricane, while some spouses fight like a…
March 4, 2021 · 5 min read
The Pandemic Marriage
You may think this post on marriage in a pandemic is a little late. But, when the pandemic first broke, I like many others, expected it to be a…
February 25, 2021 · 5 min read
What It Really Means to Live for Your Spouse
A lot of us marry hoping to get. The warmest marriages are built on a better question: how can I live for the person God gave me?
February 18, 2021 · 4 min read
Minding the Gaps:Dealing with the Differences Between Spouses
Dealing with the differences between you and your spouse is one of the most common frustrations in marriage. It’s funny how the differences we found…
February 18, 2021 · 1 min read
Are You A Good Kisser?
Are you a good kisser? Probably not a question you’re asked a lot – if at all! And how do you answer such a question? If you answer “no,” you sound…
February 11, 2021 · 5 min read
Are You a Doer or a Waiter?
When your car needs serviced, do you take initiative to get it serviced, or do you wait, hoping your spouse will do it? Or, when there are dirty…
February 4, 2021 · 4 min read
Firing Up Your Marriage the Right Kindling
Sometimes, my wife and I will meet our kids and grandkids out on a wooded piece of property they own. There, the kids fish in the pond and play in…
January 28, 2021 · 5 min read