What are the Glory Days of Your Marriage?
Glory days. If you’re a Bruce Springsteen fan, those words will automatically bring a great song to mind. But the concept of glory days has been…
January 21, 2021 · 4 min read
Don’t Feel Attracted to Your Spouse? Try These 4 Principles.
It seems like attraction should be a key ingredient in marriage. After all, we all want to be attracted to our spouse, and we want our spouse to be…
January 14, 2021 · 6 min read
What to Do if Your Spouse is Not Interested in Sex
In the last post, we looked at what can cause your sex drive to run out of gas. We also talked about some things you might be able to do about it…
December 17, 2020 · 9 min read
Is Your Sex Drive Running Low?
It’s normal in marriage for one spouse to have a lower sex drive than the other. But when one spouse exhibits little to no sex drive, it can be an…
December 10, 2020 · 5 min read
Do You Know Your Spouse?
Maybe you read the title of this post and thought, “I don’t need this post. I know my spouse.” I’ve thought the same thing. I’ve been married for…
December 3, 2020 · 4 min read
Developing a Thankful Attitude in Marriage
We all have things about our spouse we don’t like. Things like… How they leave their shoes lying around. How they make noise when they eat. How they…
November 26, 2020 · 3 min read
It’s Marriage Not Magic!
I love a good magic show. As a kid, I would practice for hours learning sleight of hand magic. And now that I’m an adult and know it’s just a series…
November 19, 2020 · 4 min read
Why Did You Get Married?
WHY DO PEOPLE GET MARRIED? When I am counseling couples, I often ask them this question: “Why did you get married?“ The answers vary… I fell in love…
November 12, 2020 · 5 min read
An Easy Way to Spice Up Your Marriage
I don’t know about you, but when I hear the phrase “spice up your marriage,” the first thing that comes to my mind is coming home from work and…
November 5, 2020 · 3 min read
Priming the Pump
THE FEELING Do you feel like you’re starving in your marriage? Maybe you’ve not admitted it to anyone. Perhaps you’ve tried to downplay it…
October 29, 2020 · 4 min read
How to Prioritize Partnering Over Parenting
In the last post, we talked about how parenting can take its toll on partnering. If you haven’t read that post, I encourage you to check it out. To…
October 22, 2020 · 5 min read
How Parenting Can Take a Toll on Partnering
Parenting is supposed to be one of the most fulfilling experiences of your life. It’s supposed to bring spouses together. But without care and…
October 15, 2020 · 4 min read
Is Your Marriage Out of Focus?
When you go to have your eyes checked, the first thing they do is determine your focus. They want to know what you’re able to focus on and what…
October 8, 2020 · 3 min read
What Can You Do If You’re Dissatisfied With Your Marriage?
If you’re dissatisfied with your spouse or your marriage, you’re not alone. As we saw in the last post, it’s not that uncommon. But the big question…
October 1, 2020 · 6 min read
Are You Dissatisfied With Your Marriage?
If you’ve been married for a while, maybe you’ve had this thought. It’s an unsettling thought that you’ve probably not said out loud, but it’s one…
September 24, 2020 · 4 min read
If You and Your Spouse Are Drifting…
It comes on slowly. It comes on gradually. But, if you’ve been married for any length of time, I’m guessing you have felt it. The conversations have…
September 17, 2020 · 6 min read
If There’s Been Infidelity…
Few things are more devastating or destructive to a marriage than infidelity. It’s worse than the death of a spouse, because when a spouse dies, it’s…
September 10, 2020 · 7 min read
If Things Are Getting Heated…
Perhaps you’ve been there. You and your spouse are “discussing” something when suddenly you realize things are getting heated and going south. If it…
September 3, 2020 · 4 min read
The Three Fields: A Marriage Parable
The following parable is suited to many situations in life, but it’s particularly suited to marriage. Once there were three farmers. They each had a…
August 27, 2020 · 3 min read
If You Can’t Get Over How They’ve Hurt You… (Part 2)
What do you do if you’re having trouble getting over the way your spouse has hurt you? I posed this question in the last post, but I didn’t answer…
August 20, 2020 · 5 min read
If You Can’t Get Over How They’ve Hurt You… (Part 1)
We all dream of a marriage where there’s lots of fun, good connection, deep understanding, frequent sex, abundant money, perfect kids, beautiful…
August 13, 2020 · 5 min read
If You’re Attracted to Someone Else…
Let’s cut to the chase. There will be times when we find ourselves attracted to someone other than our spouse. We don’t like to admit it, but it…
August 6, 2020 · 3 min read
If You Find it Difficult to Deal With Your In-Laws…
“It’s only for a couple of weeks. Just don’t say anything!” These were the words of caution/threat that my wife delivered to me prior to her parents’…
July 23, 2020 · 6 min read
If You Disagree on Spending… (Part 2)
In the last Normal Marriage Post, we began looking at a topic that can be so problematic in marriage it ranks right up there with sex and…
July 16, 2020 · 5 min read