Bret Legg
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People who know me know I am not a handyman. I’m someone who can turn a simple fifteen minute fix-it job into an all day nightmare. I am the guy from whom repair people make their money. So with that in mind, here’s the story… It was…
Couples come into my counseling office for many reasons. Some are having on-going conflicts they can’t resolve. Others are having trouble with their parents or in-laws. Some are struggling in their sexual relationship. Others are at odds…
You read the words…”Some assembly required.” You open the box and find several pages of instructions. Do you follow the instructions to the letter, or do you think to yourself, “This doesn’t look that hard,” and discard the instructions?…
The mark of a true relationship is not found in the things two people do together. Nor is it found in the things they accumulate and share together. The mark of a true relationship is found in the quantity and quality of the time they…
Some face a new year with much anticipation. Others face a new year with some fear and dread. As you look back over the last twelve months, maybe your life took some hits. Maybe your marriage is still reeling from things you could never…
At first glance, Exodus chapters 21-23 seem to be a running list of ancient rules and regulations. So the tendency is to skim through these chapters as if they aren’t that important. But rules and regulations are important for many…
When I was in the eight grade, my father insisted I be on the basketball team. I think he was worried about a son who spent most of his time indoors drawing and listening to music. But I was lousy at sports. I was not competitive, I was…
“Acting for the first time in 14 years, the American Heart Association and the American College of Cardiology redefined high blood pressure as a reading of 130 over 80, down from 140 over 90. The change means that 46 percent of US adults,…
As a boy, the bottom drawer of my chest of drawers was reserved, not for clothing, but for an eclectic collection of my most treasured possessions. There I kept things like special comic books, cool rocks, action figures, and other odd…
It’s humbling when someone sees you struggling to do something and shows you a better way to do it. This happens with Moses in Exodus 17-18. There, Moses is trying to be the sole settler of disputes among the people Israel, and his…
How am I suppose to find the answer to the question, “Are you a good lover?” If I ask myself that question, my pride and ego would give a resounding “YES!” But if I’m honest, after thirty-seven years of marriage, I still feel awkward and…
Any time you begin something new (a new school, a new job, a new marriage, etc.) there are always some lessons you need to learn to help you do well in that new thing. In Exodus 16, the Children of Israel were embarking on something brand…
On Thanksgiving Day, it’s good to look at the role gratitude plays in marriage. Many marriages are unhappy, not because of big things like abuse or affairs, but because of a little thing like a lack of gratitude. Around 2008, Neil Pasricha…
There was an old Saturday Night Live sketch with Tom Hanks called “Mr. Short Term Memory.” It was about a man who only held things in his memory for a few seconds, and then totally forgot them. Can you imagine how frustrating it would be…
Some of my favorite movies (much to my wife’s dismay) are “The Matrix” trilogy of movies. They never get old to me. I can watch them over and over and still find new thing in them that I didn’t see before. This happened a while back when I…
In the movie, “The Shawshank Redemption,” you see the difficulty people have transitioning from a life in prison to a life of freedom. Familiar with years of incarceration, they have trouble shifting gears and knowing how to live as a free…
Exodus chapters 11-12 tell us that before Pharaoh will set the Israelites free from bondage, there will have to be one final plague. It’s as if all the other plagues were warm-ups in preparation for the grand finale. God has been laying…
Exodus chapters 7-10 give an account of the plagues God brought upon Egypt, because of Pharaoh’s refusal to release the Israelites. Though these chapters are rich with truths, there are three main truths that stand out like large…
You do everything you know to do. You plan, pray, and work hard. But despite your best efforts, things get worse rather than better. It’s frustrating, discouraging, and even angering. You ask yourself, “What did I do wrong?” If your…
One day, I was out walking and noticed a man with a metal detector methodically covering a patch of ground. Slowly and diligently, he combed first one patch of ground and then another, occasionally stooping to dig up a coin or small…
God doesn’t always make sense. Sometimes, it’s because He sees so much further down the road than we do. Sometimes, it’s because He’s teaching us to trust Him. But whatever the reason, God doesn’t always make sense, and this is why faith…
So many people feel too common, too plain, or too ordinary to do anything great. Others believe they could do something great, but they don’t want to go through the difficulties it would require. Both were probably true of Moses. In Exodus…
What’s in a name? Quite a lot, actually. From the moment your parents decided on your name, it has been your main identifier and descriptor. In Exodus chapter 3, God reveals His name to Moses when He says, “Say this to the people of…
How would you complete the following sentence: “I never thought my spouse would be so ____________.” ? There are probably as many different answers to this question as there are couples. Some of the possible answers would be, “I never…