Bret Legg
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Before you misinterpret the title of this post, let me explain. This post is not about making love to two other people at the same time. It’s about making love to one person for a very long time. Wait… that didn’t sound right either. Let…
In Genesis chapter 37, we’re introduced to Joseph. The story of Joseph is the familiar and well-loved story of a young man who was given a special coat by his father, hated by his brothers and had God-given dreams of greatness. Beginning…
Genesis chapter 36 is one of those chapters you tend to skim over on your way to more powerful and meaningful chapters. After all, it’s just a long list of names of people you don’t know and will never encounter; not to mention a list of…
It all started when my wife went to the front door and came back with the latest delivery from FedEx. “What’s in the box?” I inquired. “I’m not sure,” she said with a hint of excitement in her voice. Since my wife doesn’t typically get…
“Is your worship contemporary or traditional?” “Are the lights up or down?” “Do you use hymnals or read words off a screen?” “Are the instruments electric or acoustic?” “Do people raise their hands?” “Is there a choir?” These are questions…
I hate to admit it, but my hearing is not what it used to be. More and more, conversations between my wife and I are starting to sound like comedy sketches or the transcripts from nursing home conversations. It goes something like this
We’re in the middle of some crazy weather patterns. It’s in the lower 80’s one day, and then the lower 30’s the next. It’s like going through all the seasons in the span of a week or two. Marriages go through seasons, and each season…
Genesis chapter 34 is a bleak story. While Jacob and his family were sojourning through the land, a Hivite prince named Shechem became infatuated with Jacob’s daughter, Dinah. Shechem forced himself on Dinah and raped her. He then asked…
In Genesis chapter 33, Jacob is very fearful at the thought of meeting his brother, Esau. After all, Jacob had cheated his brother out of his birthright and his blessing, and now Esau had the power and right to make Jacob pay for all he…
Marriages need magic moments. (I know that sounds like a Cialis or Viagra commercial, but stay with me.) If I asked you, “What are the magic moments in your marriage?” how would you answer? Would you talk about your wedding day? Your…
As young children, we exercise our independence by saying, “Me do it!” As adults, we may not stomp our feet, stick out our lip and loudly proclaim, “Me do it!” but our bent is still to do things ourselves. Prior to Genesis chapter 32,…
It’s so easy to exaggerate our self-importance and take center stage in life. We can be quick to focus on our interests, elevate our contributions, and downplay our faults. In Genesis chapter 30, Jacob and his uncle Laban are caught in a…
Sometimes you read thing something that makes you stop and evaluate your marriage, your faith and your life. This guest post from my friend Connie Plummer did that to me, and I wanted to share it with you. They are like a man who builds a…
Everyone wants to feel significant. Often we attempt to find that significance through acquisition and accumulation. We strive to acquire the right partner and the right career. We accumulate more things, more money, and more activities.…
In many areas of life, it’s not good to overlook things. If you overlook the traffic light turning red, you could have a serious accident. If you overlook a sponge when sowing up your patient, you could be looking at a serious lawsuit. And…
Now that I have your attention… Go to your local bookstore and look at the books on sex. You don’t have to wear a disguise or take the Christian bumper stickers off your car. Just act like you were looking for a book on Civil War history…
There are moments when heaven seems to intersect earth. A person who can’t afford their next meal suddenly opens the door to find a stranger with a bag of groceries and a story of how God directed them there. A person who sees no reason to…
Some people are afraid of not achieving what they desire. They picture success as getting the right job, having the right house, raising the right kids, and taking the right vacations. They are driven by the fear of missing out on what…
One major theme runs throughout the Star Wars story line. It’s that there is a struggle between the light side of the force and a dark side of the force. The same is true in marriage. I’m not saying that spouses should solve their…
Life often feels like feast or famine. Either you’ve got all the time in the world, or you’re running out of time and racing the clock. Either you’re a little ahead on your bills, or you’re digging for change in the sofa to cover a bill.…
We’ve all heard stories of someone who seemed to throw away everything in a moment of lust or indiscretion. How easy it is, in a moment of intensity, to give away something precious. Some give away their sexuality. Others, their sobriety.…
I could boil my life down to a few big decisions. The decision to get married, the decision to follow Christ, the decision to have children, the decision to enter the ministry and the decision to quit my job and move my family to seminary.…
Gravity is an essential part of life. Without it, things would drift away into space. Likewise, gravity is an essential part of marriage. Without marital gravity, spouses begin to drift apart. And if they drift too far apart, it can bring…
Since Genesis chapter 12, God has promised Abraham ownership of the land through which he’s wondered. In Genesis chapter 23, God begins to fulfill that promise…but not in the way you would think. This chapter opens with the death of…