Bret Legg
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THE FEELING Do you feel like you’re starving in your marriage? Maybe you’ve not admitted it to anyone. Perhaps you’ve tried to downplay it, rationalize it, or ignore it. But you feel it. Inside, you’re starving for: Attention. Affection.…
I’m one of those people who tends to wait and see what happens. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not lazy or a slacker. I’m the type that steadily works, taking care of the day-to-day stuff; assuming that God will somehow take that and weave it…
https://bretlegg-podcast.s3.amazonaws.com/2020/Episode006-Are-Self-Esteem-and-Self-Worth-the-Same.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadA lot of people use the terms self-esteem and self-worth interchangeably. But are they the same…
In the last post, we talked about how parenting can take its toll on partnering. If you haven’t read that post, I encourage you to check it out. To quickly summarize…without proper care and attention, children can turn you from playmates…
Picture this… One day, a father gives his boy a shiny new bike. While riding the new bike, the boy realizes his father doesn’t have a bike of his own. The boy doesn’t take into account that his father has a car and all the possessions he…
https://bretlegg-podcast.s3.amazonaws.com/2020/Episode005-Feelings.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWhen it comes to reacting and making decisions…should we listen to our feelings? Some will say “yes” and some will say “no.” Stay…
Parenting is supposed to be one of the most fulfilling experiences of your life. It’s supposed to bring spouses together. But without care and attention, just the opposite can happen. If you’re not careful, parenting can take a toll on…
If you followed me through a typical week, you would find times when I get things right and times when I mess things up. Times when my desire is to lift up God and times when I’m more concerned about myself. Times when I’m acting gracious…
https://s3.amazonaws.com/bretlegg-podcast/2020/Episode004Mindfulness.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadMindfulness. There’s a lot of talk about mindfulness these days. But what is it, and can it really help you, and how? Today on…
https://s3.amazonaws.com/bretlegg-podcast/2020/Episode003-Time-Out.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWe’re all familiar with children needing a time-out when they’re having trouble controlling themselves, but have you ever thought…
When you go to have your eyes checked, the first thing they do is determine your focus. They want to know what you’re able to focus on and what you’re not. Just like your eyes, the health of your marriage has a lot to do with your focus.…
https://s3.amazonaws.com/bretlegg-podcast/2020/Episode002-Depressed.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWhat’s the difference between depression and just being down? Today we’re going to look at how you can know if you’re really…
Have you ever known someone who seemed to live a charmed life? They’re in the right place at the right time. They get all the right breaks. Everything they touch turns to gold. Those outside of Israel probably felt David lived a charmed…
If you’re dissatisfied with your spouse or your marriage, you’re not alone. As we saw in the last post, it’s not that uncommon. But the big question is, what do you do about it? In this post, we’ll look at what you can do if you’re…
https://s3.amazonaws.com/bretlegg-podcast/2020/Episode001-Welcome.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadWelcome to the maiden voyage of the Quick Counsel Podcast. I’m your host, Bret Legg. I’m a pastoral counselor with a Masters Degree…
In an election year, the airwaves and internet are full of adds for those running for office. The candidates say the right things and promise to do the right things, hoping to convince people to vote for them. It feels like the same thing…
If you’ve been married for a while, maybe you’ve had this thought. It’s an unsettling thought that you’ve probably not said out loud, but it’s one you can’t seem to escape. The thought is… “I’m not satisfied with my marriage.” In the last…
As a kid, going on a long trip was a big deal for me. I always felt anticipation and excitement as we pulled out of the driveway. But it wouldn’t be long before I would get restless and utter the words every parent dreads…“Are we there…
It comes on slowly. It comes on gradually. But, if you’ve been married for any length of time, I’m guessing you have felt it. The conversations have begun to fall off. The time you spend together in the car or at a restaurant is starting…
I’ve been to funerals where they were eulogizing the “dearly departed” and thought to myself, “Are we talking about the same person?!” Now I know it would be in poor taste to bad mouth the deceased…even if they were a mean and difficult…
Few things are more devastating or destructive to a marriage than infidelity. It’s worse than the death of a spouse, because when a spouse dies, it’s not intentional, it’s not a betrayal, and you don’t keep running into them or dealing…
Have you ever watched a movie that ended abruptly, without a resolution? You’re waiting for things to turn around, but it never happens. It just ends with a heavy “thud.” The book of 1 Samuel ends this way. The final chapter ends the book…
Perhaps you’ve been there. You and your spouse are “discussing” something when suddenly you realize things are getting heated and going south. If it goes much further, you’ll hit a point of no return and it won’t end well. This is normal…
You can’t please everyone. No matter how hard you try, someone is not going to like something you’ve said or done. But David was a man who seemed to be able to get along with a wide variety of people. In 1 Samuel chapters 29 and 30, we see…