The Three Fields: A Marriage Parable
The following parable is suited to many situations in life, but it’s particularly suited to marriage. Once there were three farmers. They each had a…
August 27, 2020 · 3 min read
1 Samuel 28 – Are You Driven by Fear?
We all have things we fear, but some people are especially driven by fear. Their life is a desperate attempt to avoid things like… The loss of a…
August 25, 2020 · 2 min read
If You Can’t Get Over How They’ve Hurt You… (Part 2)
What do you do if you’re having trouble getting over the way your spouse has hurt you? I posed this question in the last post, but I didn’t answer…
August 20, 2020 · 5 min read
1 Samuel 26-27 – Balancing Kindness and Courage
Many people view followers of God as weak, passive, and vulnerable. They have trouble associating a Christian with the aggressive and calculating…
August 18, 2020 · 2 min read
If You Can’t Get Over How They’ve Hurt You… (Part 1)
We all dream of a marriage where there’s lots of fun, good connection, deep understanding, frequent sex, abundant money, perfect kids, beautiful…
August 13, 2020 · 5 min read
1 Samuel 25 – When You Want to Get Back at Someone
Have you ever wanted to get back at someone, because they were treating you with contempt…even though you were treating them with kindness? Maybe it…
August 11, 2020 · 2 min read
If You’re Attracted to Someone Else…
Let’s cut to the chase. There will be times when we find ourselves attracted to someone other than our spouse. We don’t like to admit it, but it…
August 6, 2020 · 3 min read
1 Samuel 23-24 – How to Go High When They Go Low
As children, we’re taught to play fair and do what’s right…even if no one else is…then things will turn out alright for us. But what do you do when…
August 4, 2020 · 2 min read
If Your Approaches to Parenting Differ…
When people come into my counseling office with marital problems, I always ask them, “When did these things start to be a problem?” The majority of…
July 30, 2020 · 5 min read
1 Samuel 21-22 – The Traits of a Good Leader
Leadership is a hot topic these days. If you type the word “leadership” into Amazon’s search bar, you will get over 60,000 results. Most of the books…
July 28, 2020 · 2 min read
If You Find it Difficult to Deal With Your In-Laws…
“It’s only for a couple of weeks. Just don’t say anything!” These were the words of caution/threat that my wife delivered to me prior to her parents’…
July 23, 2020 · 6 min read
1 Samuel 20 – Deep and Meaningful Friendships
Do you have close friendships? The fast paced and high pressured world in which we live often prevents us from having the time we need to develop…
July 21, 2020 · 2 min read
If You Disagree on Spending… (Part 2)
In the last Normal Marriage Post, we began looking at a topic that can be so problematic in marriage it ranks right up there with sex and…
July 16, 2020 · 5 min read
1 Samuel 18-19 – How to be Successful
If you type “success” in Amazon’s search bar, you will come up with over 100,000 hits! Why? Because we all want to be successful. We want success in…
July 14, 2020 · 2 min read
If You Disagree on Spending… (Part 1)
They say the three hot topics for marriage are sex, money, and communication. We talked about sex in the last post and we’ll put off communication…
July 9, 2020 · 4 min read
1 Samuel 17 – Who Wants To Be Like David?
Have you ever encountered someone who was so different from those around them, they stood out in a powerful and positive way? The kind of someone…
July 7, 2020 · 2 min read
If You’re Struggling with Your Sexual Relationship…
Sex can easily become an issue in marriage. Here are some of the things spouses tell me in my counseling office… “My spouse wants sex all the time!”…
July 2, 2020 · 4 min read
1 Samuel 16 – People Are Like a Box of Chocolates
I’m not a fan of those variety boxes of chocolates. They leave you to guess about what might be lurking inside each piece. You can pick one that…
June 30, 2020 · 2 min read
If You Want Your Spouse To Change…
Remember when when you were so in love with your spouse you couldn’t think of anything you wanted to change about them? Does that seem like a long…
June 26, 2020 · 6 min read
If Your Spouse is Critical…
Does any of the following sound familiar? That’s not the right way to load the dishwasher. They won’t get clean that way. Why are you going this way?…
June 19, 2020 · 6 min read
If You Feel Like Quitting…
Everyone feels like quitting sometimes. Stephen King is a prolific writer and probably one of the most well know and successful authors in modern…
June 12, 2020 · 4 min read
If You Don’t Want to Hurt your Kids…
Here’s the story of two couples… Couple #1 It was a Saturday afternoon when some friends of ours called in great distress. They asked if I could come…
June 5, 2020 · 5 min read
If There’s Something You Want Your Spouse To Know…
I’m going to let you in on one of my many failures in marriage. But, I warn you…it’s not pretty! In fact it’s quite embarrassing! (If my wife is…
May 29, 2020 · 5 min read
If You Want Your Marriage To Work…
Everyone wants their marriage to work. You never hear a couple getting married make vows to love one another “till it just doesn’t work anymore.”…
May 22, 2020 · 3 min read