Bret Legg
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The following parable is suited to many situations in life, but it’s particularly suited to marriage. Once there were three farmers. They each had a field that was not doing well. The demands of growing crops had slowly drawn the…
We all have things we fear, but some people are especially driven by fear. Their life is a desperate attempt to avoid things like… The loss of a loved one. The loss of a marriage. The loss of their health. The loss of financial stability.…
What do you do if you’re having trouble getting over the way your spouse has hurt you? I posed this question in the last post, but I didn’t answer it. Instead, I looked at the various ways spouses hurt one another. I encourage you to go…
Many people view followers of God as weak, passive, and vulnerable. They have trouble associating a Christian with the aggressive and calculating demeanor of a war-time general or a corporate CEO. But in 1 Samuel chapters 26 and 27 we see…
We all dream of a marriage where there’s lots of fun, good connection, deep understanding, frequent sex, abundant money, perfect kids, beautiful rainbows, and dancing unicorns. But marriage can be as much a battleground as a playground at…
Have you ever wanted to get back at someone, because they were treating you with contempt…even though you were treating them with kindness? Maybe it was a boss who continued to pass you over, despite your hard work. Perhaps it was a friend…
Let’s cut to the chase. There will be times when we find ourselves attracted to someone other than our spouse. We don’t like to admit it, but it happens. We see someone and do a double-take. We’re with a group of people and find ourselves…
As children, we’re taught to play fair and do what’s right…even if no one else is…then things will turn out alright for us. But what do you do when doing the right thing seems to make matters worse? In 1 Samuel chapters 23 and 24, David is…
When people come into my counseling office with marital problems, I always ask them, “When did these things start to be a problem?” The majority of people trace it back to when they started having kids. This makes sense. When kids come…
Leadership is a hot topic these days. If you type the word “leadership” into Amazon’s search bar, you will get over 60,000 results. Most of the books on leadership enumerated principles, strategies, practices, and mindsets you can apply in…
“It’s only for a couple of weeks. Just don’t say anything!” These were the words of caution/threat that my wife delivered to me prior to her parents’ arrival. And she drove those word home as if she was driving a three-inch nail through my…
Do you have close friendships? The fast paced and high pressured world in which we live often prevents us from having the time we need to develop deep and meaningful friendships. David and Jonathan were close friends. You can see this in 1…
In the last Normal Marriage Post, we began looking at a topic that can be so problematic in marriage it ranks right up there with sex and communication. The topic was money. In the last post, we looked at the two issues that make money and…
If you type “success” in Amazon’s search bar, you will come up with over 100,000 hits! Why? Because we all want to be successful. We want success in marriage, in parenting, in business, in love, in finances…in everything! Even churches…
They say the three hot topics for marriage are sex, money, and communication. We talked about sex in the last post and we’ll put off communication till a later post. (See what I did there?) So, let’s talk about money. At one time or…
Have you ever encountered someone who was so different from those around them, they stood out in a powerful and positive way? The kind of someone whose confidence and courage caused you to desire to be more like them? The kind of…
Sex can easily become an issue in marriage. Here are some of the things spouses tell me in my counseling office… “My spouse wants sex all the time!” “My spouse is just not interested in sex. “ “I’m not sure about some of the things my…
I’m not a fan of those variety boxes of chocolates. They leave you to guess about what might be lurking inside each piece. You can pick one that looks good, only to discover some not-so-good stuff inside. Or, you can pass over a piece,…
Remember when when you were so in love with your spouse you couldn’t think of anything you wanted to change about them? Does that seem like a long time ago? WHY CAN’T WE SEE OUR DIFFERENCES EARLY ON? In premarital counseling, I try to get…
Does any of the following sound familiar? That’s not the right way to load the dishwasher. They won’t get clean that way. Why are you going this way? It takes longer and there are more stop lights. Why can’t you put things away when you’re…
Everyone feels like quitting sometimes. Stephen King is a prolific writer and probably one of the most well know and successful authors in modern history. Yet, he felt like quitting early on. I read that one night, his wife was taking out…
Here’s the story of two couples… Couple #1 It was a Saturday afternoon when some friends of ours called in great distress. They asked if I could come over as soon as possible. I could tell from the voice on the phone that something bad was…
I’m going to let you in on one of my many failures in marriage. But, I warn you…it’s not pretty! In fact it’s quite embarrassing! (If my wife is reading this, she’s probably pretty nervous at this point.) Here’s the story
Everyone wants their marriage to work. You never hear a couple getting married make vows to love one another “till it just doesn’t work anymore.” They always vow to love one another “till death do us part.” No one wants their marriage to…